Last week I shared my teenager’s birth story with you and mentioned that she was getting a Facebook profile. After sitting beside her through a few of her first sessions, it took less than five minutes for me to jot down a list of what-not-to-do-on-Facebook for teens. You adults know all these already. I have only made things easier for you by gathering them all in one place.
1. Don’t ask me what the plural for “status” is, because I still haven’t nailed that one down to something I can live with.
2. Don’t jump at attention bait. There will be those friends who leave vague statuses, (statusis? statii?) in an attempt to get you to feel their pain or ask what’s wrong. If you read, “I hate my life.” or “People can be so mean sometimes!”, stay out of that mess. It’s a trap.
3. Don’t become attention bait. Facebook is not a place to cry for help or vent. It is not a diary and certainly not a place to complain about your parents, your life, your body, or Facebook itself.
4. Don’t use a duck-face or gang signs in any pics. Ever.The sad thing is, I had to explain to my daughter that duck-face is ugly and ridiculous. I really don’t think she ever believed me. She has seen people she thinks are cool do it, therefore it is cool. It is up to moms to break that horrible cycle. You may think gang signs are not a problem in suburbia. Wrong. Parents must warn against virtually all hand gestures because they are most likely gang signs, ignorantly copied by unaware young people. No one in your little part of the world needs to know that you are representing for the West side, little thug.
5. Do learn how to kick someone off your feed. If someone is violating any of these rules or just getting on your nerves, no need to unfriend. Just hover over their name, look for the check beside “show in newsfeed” and uncheck that sucker without a shred of guilt. It is the key to Fb happiness. Anyone using profanity or posting anything Mom doesn’t like gets unchecked without discussion.
6. Don’t watch videos with vague titles shared by unlikely sharers. If your bff’s mom shares a video with a title like, “You will never believe what happened next!” absolutely do not watch it. Move along.
7. Don’t take selfie after selfie and then post them one after the other. Along with this goes, don’t change your profile pic too often. Once a month is a good guide to how often people want to see your giant pic in their feed. They will hide you if you overdo it because they know about #5.
8. Don’t share too many pics from sites with names like OMG or ILoveCatsAllDay, or whaaat?.com. People assume you love your sister, hate Mondays, or whatever unnecessary information comes from these posters that will also get you hidden from their feed.
9. Do use punctuation and correct spelling. Save that awful shorthand kids use now for text messaging. Also, get off my lawn. Stand up straight.
10. Don’t choose “public” as a setting for anything. If there is a tiny globe on your timeline, you’re doing it wrong.
11. Do carefully consider before making a nickname middle name. Your friends on Fb tend to associate the name they see by your pic with you without even realizing it. Do you really want to be Claire LuvsSoftball Blanton to people, possibly forever?
12. Don’t like your own photos or statuses. (spell check is fine with “statuses”) You are awesome and your pics are awesome, but you are required to act like you don’t know that to get by in polite society. Your mother, however, can and will like everything likeable you post. Get over it.
I know you other moms have more advice to offer. What would you add to the list of Do’s and Don’ts on Facebook?